A Christmas Story

Earlier today my mom was telling me about one of my relatives.  Apparently he and his wife were living in different places over Christmas.  So on Christmas eve he calls her from the backyard, says he’s going to kill himself, and then shoots himself in the head.

My mothers comment was something to the effect of “I know what they’re going to be doing this Christmas.  If I were them I’d just let the snow cover it.  *laugh* Go back in, enjoy my Christmas, then deal with it later”.

Moral of the story: Christmas itself is more important than family to some people.

  1. #1 by Joshua on December 26, 2009 - 3:06 PM

    O.O Wow. Sorry but I think you just took the “screwed up family” award away from Phil.

    • #2 by London Burt on December 26, 2009 - 3:21 PM

      I dont know about Phil’s family but I just have the “screwed up” mom (and maybe grandma). One apple doesn’t spoil the bunch.

      • #3 by Joshua on December 26, 2009 - 6:04 PM

        Very true. Phil’s family is pretty messed up all around.

    • #4 by Phillip on December 29, 2009 - 2:37 AM

      This goes back to November 2nd, 2001.

      A couple days prior, we got a phone call from one of my cousins. He was telling us that he was going through a divorce and was looking for a place to live around here. Then my dad talked to him for a little while. It was kind of odd for him to just call out of the blue, not hearing from him for years and years then all of a sudden to get a call.

      Anyways, we thought nothing of it. My mom went to work (your neck of the woods really, 62nd and Burnham) and around 11:30 or noon she said that there were all these emergency vehicles a couple blocks from there. Later on we found out that it was my cousin, just sitting there in his car and decided to end everything.

      We found on that Saturday that it was my cousin, that there’d be a wake on Monday and entombment on Tuesday. The rest of his immediate family was in Tennessee, his kids, (soon to be ex) wife, parents, siblings, etc. They were all up there that Saturday.

      Monday night rolls around and my aunt and uncle brought along their pastor, who decided it was a good time to tell everyone that committing suicide will unconditionally prevent you from ascending to the heavens, that he couldn’t be buried in a religious ceremony, and what he did was completely hellish and that was where he was going to end up, along with everyone else that showed up there for accepting that he did that; not exactly something that you want to tell a bunch of people that’re grieving. Later on, after the thing is all done, we have the whole talking to family thing. His wife, in-laws, and children were all sitting/standing in the front left corner of the room and we were kind of in the central part but near the front. The in-laws turn to their daughter and go “well, we don’t have to worry about him anymore”, which I guess is true. But, the really classy piece is when the kids want to see their dad one last time. Their mom drags the kids right past the casket towards her parents and says something to the effect of “yeah..he was a deadbeat anyways, and, I’m glad he did this. It’s so much easier for me.” From then on until they left they were just continually doing that.

      Sure, she may not have liked him, her parents may not have liked him, but, there is still to be had a modicum of class at a such a proceeding, and that was still their children’s father in the casket.

      • #5 by Joshua on December 29, 2009 - 7:22 AM

        That’s got to be the worst pastor ever. Granted, suicide is a sin, but only God knows what’s in someone’s heart. It’s entirely possible that as he died, he regretted his decision to take his own life.

        Theological implications aside, any pastor that doesn’t offer God’s peace and blessing to the FAMILY isn’t doing his job. Even if the pastor wanted to highlight the sin of suicide (though funerals aren’t the appropriate time for it), he should still take the opportunity to bring the family closer together and remind them of God’s eternal and abiding love.

        I simply can’t stand pastors who go around condemning everyone for everything. They don’t help bring people to the church and they don’t bring people to faith by berating them.

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